Drive, motivation, talent. These are all important characteristics that in my opinion, are required for success on any level. However, there is another less talked about element that acts as a driving force for success. Doubt.
Doubt: Definition: to be uncertain about; consider questionable or unlikely; hesitate to believe.
Doubt is a funny thing. We all have our own doubts, and without being too general, it is safe to say we have all doubted other people on some level. When you think about it, it makes sense. It seems like humans are hardwired to expect the worst, especially when it comes to ourselves. But here is the thing… we can’t doubt ourselves and our abilities.
As harsh and pessimistic as it sounds, we cannot doubt ourselves because there is a whole world of people out there who are doubting us as well. The fact is, no matter who you are and what you have accomplished, someone has doubted you and your actions somewhere along the way. The reasons for this are not important, the fact is, it’s the truth.
On a personal note, I can say with certainty that I have had people doubt me more than I have had people believe in me. Again, this isn’t me being pessimistic or modest, this is me being 100% honest. I wouldn’t say that it isn’t frustrating or hurtful, but it is a harsh reality. That said, I am rather thankful that this is the case. It has served as a source of inspiration.
Here is how I look at it: When people doubt you, you are presented with two choices:
You can give them the satisfaction of being correct, and letting yourself down in the process, or you can give them a huge metaphorical fuck you, and prove them wrong. I promise you, one of these choices is going to be far more satisfying to you than the other.
Regardless of what the situation is, it is important that you believe in yourself. It is important that you surround yourself with good people. And it is important that you take the negativity of others, and make it work to your advantage.
It isn’t always a bad thing.